- Date: 5/1/16
- Time: 10:38PM
- Location: Bedroom
- Duration: 12:52!!!
- # of Edges (Nearly climaxing and then backing away): 5
- Pass/Fail: PASS
Holy fricken moly! I'm not sure if you caught the duration above, but I lasted TWELVE MINUTES AND FIFTY-TWO EFFING SECONDS! Are you fricken kidding me?! I am starting to realize that my orgasm has entirely to do with the thoughts going through my head as I masturbate. If I am just focusing on my own bodily sensations and not fantasizing about pretty women, then I can last a long ass time. It was only when I consciously decided to start thinking about women that I brought myself to the edge. I've already noticed that just in the few days that I've been doing this, I am much more aware of where my edge is. This session I found myself backing away and thinking, "No, your edge is farther than that." And it was! Oh, this is great. And it's actually not nearly as uncomfortable or boring as I anticipated!
One quick side note. Tonight I had a discussion with a friend about his masturbation/sex habits (this challenge has really opened up the communication channels), and he beautifully outlined how I think many men, including myself, approach orgasms. He said that sex feels great pretty much the whole time. The feeling of your penis in a warm, wet place is very pleasurable even when you're not cumming. However, your penis in your own hand doesn't feel nearly as nice. Therefore, during sex he wants to prolong the orgasm as long as possible, but during masturbation, he races to the climax. This is precisely it! If we're not making a conscious effort to enjoy the bodily sensations of masturbation (which is definitely not happening when we're watching porn), then we're pretty much incentivizing ourselves to just cum as quickly as possible. That's no good for when the sex comes around! Without mindfulness, we're screwing ourselves!
It's not too late to join this challenge, and I highly recommend it if you want to get more in touch with your penis! If you are planning to start, please time how long it takes for you to masturbate and ejaculate before you begin the challenge, so that you have something to compare it to at the end of the 21 days. The hope is that we all learn to take our time with ourselves. As always, please let us know about your experience on the forum tab of the website! Hooray!